As human beings it’s in our nature to be creatures of habit. Obviously with my entire blog being about wanting a difference in my life, you can see I’m trying to break this habit. I have been both blessed and cursed with a family who constantly questions my next moves. Now, don’t get me wrong. When they question me & ask me why, there has been a few instances they’ve actually made sense & I didn’t pursue what I wanted to. (Quite literally saved me from some stupid decisions) however, I’ve always had a drive to do something more, go somewhere cool or just break out of the habit of work, eat,sleep,repeat. I’ve been blessed with two opposite minded parents, my mom whom HATES change & my dad who tells me to do what makes me happy. The perfect balance of ying & yang. I’ll be honest though, I’ve often sided with my dad. (Sorry mom! I can hear you sighing from here). I’ve been known to constantly follow my heart & ignore my brain. Which obviously, doesn’t always work out for the better.
One challenge I’m facing right now is my idea to move out west. Let me tell you, neither of them are happy. Which, I can’t say I don’t understand, we’ve never truly been further than an hour apart at all times. My parents have always been amazing for being just a phone call away. Moving to the other side of the country, clearly isn’t ideal to them. Obviously, when the time comes, they are going to have to realize I’m doing it for myself. if things don’t work out, I will always have a place to call home back in Ontario. I do however need to explore Canada on my own, as much as I would love to pack my entire family in my bags, that’ll never help me grow as a person.
“Obstacles are the scary things we see when we take our eyes off our goal” – Henry Ford
The other day I was talking to a friend about long distance relationships. He told me that a relationship could never work long distance between two people. My exact answer to him was “If you constantly dwell on the negative of everything you’re going to miss out on a lot of great things in life”. Obviously this seems like a pretty basic statement, but it really got me thinking. How many people really do shut out ideas just because it looks hard? Wouldn’t the reward be that much more worth it? I guess I’ve always had an open mind that literally anything can work if you put your whole heart & soul into it. It was quite the wake up call to realize not everyone had that same perception as me. Why do people give up so easily? Sure he could have an easy, simple, local relationship. But if he wanted someone so far away what’s holding those two people back from being together? Nobody said it has to be long distance forever, once again “everything happens for a reason”. Relationships & really life in general take a lot work & dedication. If it’s handed on a silver platter it’s either 1. Shitty or half assed or 2. Is never really what you wanted. Why settle for something silver when it could be gold? GET OFF YOUR ASS AND WORK FOR IT, ITS WORTH IT. If you can’t be bothered working for it, you never deserved to have it. Accepting change & the obstacles that come along with whatever you truly want I guess is part of growing up. I would hope that we aren’t all sitting crammed up in our bedrooms living the same life day in & day out. That’s not what life is supposed to be about.
I’m going to challenge you this week to do one thing that makes you uncomfortable every day. It could be something as small as changing up your usual coffee or maybe chopping off all your hair you’ve grown for years. No matter how big or small you choose to go, please, embrace the change.
– the ever evolving Crooks.